Men have many questions related to the female release, one of the primary ones being: Why isn’t she having them? While emission is the result of lovemaking for most men nearly every time, women often don’t get their rocks off from penetration alone, and some may also not get there, at least every time, through manual or oral stimulation. Along with practicing proper male organ care, men can improve their lovemaking lives by learning more about the female release, the elusiveness of which may be causing them to lose confidence and fear that they are inadequate. The following information can help.
1. Most women need more than penetration.
Estimates vary, but something like 80% of women do not achieve release from a male organ (or other object) being inside them. A woman may thoroughly enjoy deep thrusts or shallower G-spot stimulation, but these often aren’t enough to get her there.
2. The C-spot is key.
The C-spot, that highly sensitive tissue outside the female organ, is the gateway to release for most women. A woman may prefer to release before, during or after lovemaking with either oral, manual or toy-assisted C-spot stimulation. Manual and toy play can be mixed with penetrative lovemaking fairly easily; a couple just needs to choose positions that afford access to the region. She may want to use her own hand, her partner’s hand or a vibrator, the latter of which is probably the most likely to lead to release.
3. It’s not a man’s fault.
Some men put a lot of pressure on themselves to “make” their ladies finish. If this does not result, they may blame themselves, but this isn’t helpful or even accurate, at least not most of the time. While there are things he can do to up the odds that she’ll finish, there are plenty of other factors that play a determining role.
4. It’s not her fault, either.
Some men espouse the troubling notion that women are withholding release for some personal reason, and they may become frustrated, posing such questions as, “Why won’t you finish for me?” Aside from inappropriately making it about oneself, such a line of thinking represents a lack of understanding about the many, many factors that can make it difficult for a woman to get there.
5. Don’t pressure her.
One such factor is pressure from a partner. If a man is very eager to bring a woman across the finish line, his very eagerness could be causing her anxiety, which is a release-killer for men and women alike. Ask her what she wants and how she wants it; don’t demand a particular result.
6. Communicate.
Hopefully, one’s partner has cultivated a level of familiarity with her own body so that she knows what she likes and can communicate that to a man. She knows where her hot spots are, and the couple can work together to find ways to hit them. Even if she requires C-spot stimulation to finish, it may be more likely to happen when she’s being stimulated internally in her favorite ways. For some women, the G-spot is key; for others, deep thrusts during which the male organ tip slides in front of or behind the firm tissue inside her are best.
Along with learning more about her needs, a man can improve his lovemaking life by taking an extra step in male organ care. Applying a male organ health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) after showering is an excellent way to keep the skin in good condition. Moisturizers like Shea butter and vitamin E can tag-team dry skin issues, while the neuroprotective ingredient acetyl L-carnitine may help keep manhood nerves sensitive, something imperative to experiencing lovemaking pleasure. Such a crème will keep a guy’s manhood pleasing to the touch, which is inviting to any partner.
Visit http://www.menshealthfirst.com for additional information on most common male organ health issues, tips on improving organ sensitivity and what to do to maintain a healthy manhood. John Dugan is a professional writer who specializes in men’s health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to numerous websites.
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